To reflect upon

A red this text onde and found it to be interesting, so here it is.

ARE YOU WITH THE RIGHT PARTNER? 

During a seminar, a woman asked, "How do I know if I am with the right person?" The author then noticed that there was a large man sitting next to her so he said, "It depends. Is that your partner?" In all seriousness, she answered "How do you know?" Let me answer this question because the chances are good that it's weighing on your mind replied the author. Here's the answer. Every relationship has a cycle… In the beginning; you fall in love with your partner. You anticipate their calls, want their touch, and like their idiosyncrasies. Falling in love wasn't hard. In fact, it was a completely natural and spontaneous experience. You didn't have to DO anything. That's why it's called "falling" in love. People in love sometimes say, "I was swept of my feet."Picture the expression. It implies that you were just standing there; doing nothing, and then something happened TO YOU. Falling in love is a passive and spontaneous experience. But after a few months or years of being together, the euphoria of love fades. It's a natural cycle of EVERY relationship. Slowly but surely, phone calls become a bother (if they come at all), touch is not always welcome (when it happens), and your spouse's idiosyncrasies, instead of being cute, drive you nuts. The symptoms of this stage vary with every relationship; you will notice a dramatic difference between the initial stage when you were in love and a much duller or even angry subsequent stage. At this point, you and/or your partner might start asking, "Am I with the right person?" And as you reflect on the euphoria of the love you once had, you may begin to desire that experience with someone else. This is when relationships breakdown. The key to succeeding in a relationship is not finding the right person; it's learning to love the person you found. People blame their partners for their unhappiness and look outside for fulfillment. Extramarital fulfillment comes in all shapes and sizes. Infidelity is the most common. But sometimes people turn to work, a hobby, friendship, excessive TV, or abusive substances. But the answer to this dilemma does NOT lie outside your relationship. It lies within it. I'm not saying that you couldn't fall in love with someone else. You could. And TEMPORARILY you'd feel better. But you'd be in the same situation a few years later. Because (listen carefully to this): The key to succeeding in a Relationship is not finding the right person; it's learning to love the Person you found. SUSTAINING love is not a passive or spontaneous experience. You have to work on it day in and day out. It takes time, effort, and energy. And most importantly, it demands WISDOM. You have to know WHAT TO DO to make it work. Make no mistake about it. Love is NOT a mystery. There are specific things you can do (with or without your partner), Just as there are physical laws Of the universe (such as gravity), there are also laws for relationships. If you know how to apply these laws, the results are predictable. Love is therefore a "decision". Not just a feeling. Remember this always: God determines who walks into your life. It is up to you to decide who you let walk away, who you let stay, and who you refuse to let GO! 

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Já me apaixonei várias vezes, até já me apaixonei mais que uma vez pela mesma pessoa... mas já desde há algum tempo que não me consigo verdadeiramente entregar, quando chego a um certo limite e vejo que me estou a apaixonar irremediávelmente por alguém parece que há algum sensor ou alarme que dispara, e por mais que eu não o queira torno-me "escorregadia"... acho que é uma questão de disponibilidade emocional e realmente neste ponto em que me encontro ainda não tenho muita disponibilidade emocional porque assim que as coisas se começam a intensificar parece que começo a sentir a necessidade de fugir, o que me deixa um bocado irritada porque tenho consciência de que o que faço, mas por enquanto ainda não consigo quebrar este meu padrão... sou muito independente, sempre o fui mas não é disso que se trata, são as tais barreiras que eu mesma elevo entre mim e a outra pessoa... enfim... também sei que nem sempre fui assim e que não serei assim para sempre... são momentos, são ciclos da vida... preocupa-me a possibilidade de ferir alguém, como já o fiz antes e como também já fui ferida... às vezes interrogo-me se algum dia serei capaz de fazer alguém feliz... no fundo sei que sim porque sei muito bem o que é amar e ser amada e não estou muito preocupada porque se hoje é assim, amanhã tudo muda, tudo é novo, gosto de surpresas e a vida é sempre a dar voltas e reviravoltas, algumas esperadas outras totalmente inesperadas e nunca antes imaginadas...

Eu estou de bem comigo e para mim tudo é possível, só tenho de ser eu mesma...

Esta estava guardada na minha caixinha, não sabia se a iria deixar ver a luz do dia... mas aqui está...